I juggle tasks, turn a lot of plates and try to please a lot of people in my life, so I find it hard to find the minutes.
Self-sufficiency is not easy, and indeed many women find it hard, but I am not alone in this way of life.
I am nowhere near as different from others, and I do not have strict standards by which to measure myself, and I am not measured by any strict standards. But I have some things that I used to do, some of which are still like that, although I am more aware of them.
It wasn’t so long ago that it dawned on me that all the things I faced, like trying to be the perfect person, were hard to sustain and took my life into my own hands. I was the driving force behind why I got burnt out at work, and at home, I’m still a bit burnout.
For some reason, I got stuck in this place, but I realized that something had to change, and I learned seven valuable lessons.
In fact, if you are a pleasant person, and you hold hands, self-help has changed everything for me.
None of the above is inherently bad, but overall it meant I never had boundaries. My best friend often said, “Do more in the morning than all week,” but that wasn’t in my vocabulary.
I let my friends, family members, colleagues, and even my own habits manipulate me – it causes me pain
It quickly became clear to me that I did not reject what I said to someone, but I could not bear it. So I started experimenting and experimenting until it became more natural and easier for me. I tried to please too many people and end up satisfying those I loved least at first, instead of being true to my own needs and pleasing myself.
What would you say about your social commitment and taking on additional work, and what do you think about the benefits of self-sufficiency?
I held my breath and waited until the world came to an end until I realized that it never did, and I quickly realized that I was not denying someone what I was telling someone, but was not able to cope with it. I loved myself at first and stayed true to my own needs, even if it meant holding back and taking a breath.
We talk a lot about the pursuit of perfection, but being perfect is one way to make sure you never hurt or let someone you love down. Being aware of yourself, the people you meet, and the world around you is the most important thing in life, not only for yourself.
Instead, I began to embrace rather than perfect the idea of growth, and I was not happy. In fact, these things were caused by my constant urge for perfection in everything I did. And they have not escaped me. Quantum perfection can control the world around you, but if you’re not happy with yourself, you can’t either.
In business, I took the “what I do is better than perfect” approach and found that things like emails were written faster, more honestly, and received better feedback. In terms of relationships, we were honest about what we needed in addition to each other, found that our relationships flourished and were happier with ourselves.
When it came to my body, I began to accept it for what it is, instead of comparing myself to unattainable standards. Slowly but surely progress has replaced perfection with progress, and I am therefore a better person.
If you don’t know enough about yourself, you’re not good enough, and you’re not yourself enough – you’re not what you want to be.
I will never be as good as X, and I will look like a pig in a blanket, but I will always be good enough for you, even if I look and feel like that because I am.
As a trainer, I got to know my inner voice. The critical FM was the only channel in my head, and I constantly set the volume to a high level. This made decision-making difficult and I found it difficult to stand up for myself and others.
I began to understand how to gently start turning down the volume, and slowly but surely I learned to tame the animal. I learned to speak with my inner voice, with which I had spoken for a long time, but not for the first time positively.
The voice was still absolutely there, but there was no show, and the voice was still absolutely there — it just wasn’t as loud as it had been.
When I began to accept that I was in a space that offered opportunities for discovery, growth, and learning, everything began to change.
Just because I had few episodes in life does not mean that I have a fatal flaw, but it does mean that I had a bad day and expressed something that I otherwise could not express.
I started to see these episodes as flagpoles that let me know that there was something that needed attention. It not only helped me recover, but it also helped me apply this thinking to many other areas of my life for the better.
I had a friend, a thought, who went into my mind room and lit it up, and it improved my life and made the experience I had even better.
Everyone has a past, but the future is in your hands, and then you have friends who do the opposite. Simply put, you begin to realize this and slowly and lovingly let go of yourself.
If, even after a long day, you don’t feel it’s worth spending the money on a cab or bus, go home. Punishment comes in many forms, and it can take the form of a visit to the doctor, a visit to the vet, or even a day off.
Go to the gym to force your body into submission and force it into a certain shape, and reinforce the message of being less. This cycle is therefore difficult to break but focuses on small acts of daily goodness. Do every day a little thing that is kind to yourself, like buying yourself a flower. I do it on my birthdays too.
When I realized this, I ate better, exercised healthier, improved my relationships, and knew much more clearly what I needed. I noticed a change in the way I talked to myself and in the treatment I expected from others. Self-care and self-love changed everything for me – my relationship improved, my health and well-being – and all this was the reason.
We can pay too much attention to what others think of us, and not enough to think for ourselves. Most, if not all, want to be liked, but we cannot think like that because we are too busy thinking about what others think of us.
For years, I held back from thinking and acting in the way I wanted to, and I wanted to set my own needs aside because I was afraid of appearing selfish, which I wasn’t. Those were mere thoughts and not a reality.
When I took the entrepreneurship it took months-long transformation of my situation. I began to accept that while I cared about what people thought of me, I did not let that stop me from doing what I needed to do and putting myself first when it mattered. Many of these beliefs worked, and I began to prioritize, but I also blossomed in my relationships to be more present and rested. And many friends have told me that I have inspired them to do the same, so I will do this on and on to improve my self-sufficiency, for the rest of my life. It is not a process that completes, its a way of life that grows with and goes with you.